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Question:
My wife left me a few weeks ago because she discovered an affair that I had a few years ago, ended, and then kept from her. In the years since the affair, I recommitted myself to our marriage and became a more attentive husband. My wife is hurt and furious, and for weeks would only call me to talk about getting a divorce. Three nights ago, my wife told me she is pregnant. She still wants a divorce, but she also wants our child to grow up in a stable environment, so she says she will forgive me to an extent so we can have an amicable relationship for the sake of our child. Last night, I went over to her new apartment and we had the first decent conversation we've had in months. She promised me that I can be a very active part of our child's life, which basically means I have an all-access pass into her life, too.

Answer:
Nope! No! Negative! Nix! Absolutely not! Having a child entitles you to nothing. You have burnt the bridge to your wife's affection. You must earn trust and you have done some pretty immense damage. You screwed up your marriage by, well screwing someone else! Now what you have left is a child to care for and whose needs you need to consider first above all others. It sounds like your soon to be ex-wife has a good head on her shoulders. You should follow in her footsteps and start acting like a responsible adult. Think before you act. DO NOT act like you have an all access pass into her life. You don't!

he he he

Who said I was going to stick to the regiment? Well I guess I did. I have been away for a month and have decided its about a month too long. Who wants to read the work of a slacker? I am trying not to have the summer crazy of kids not being away at school completely consume my every thought. I will triumph.